You know you must really need to hear a message if God will not stop repeating it. The first message I keeping hearing is that I need to be present here–now, which has nothing to do with our reading this week. The second is that to remove something from my life, a habit, a thought, or a sin, I need to replace it with something good.
When I first heard this message months ago, it all originated from a few short verses found in Luke 11. In verses 24-26, Luke relates the story Jesus told about an unclean spirit leaving a person and traveling and finding no where to go. Then it went back to the person, who had cleaned the space that the spirit left but not filled it with anything else. The spirit brought its friends to join it, and the person was worse off than before.
We need to keep this principle in mind when trying to eliminate stuff from our own lives. Unless we replace those habits and sins (I’ll address thoughts on Wednesday) with something else, something better, then they will creep back into our lives.
For instance, right now I’m trying really hard to not let loose in frustration at my children. Most days at some point, I feel myself coming to the edge. Here I have a choice, lash out in frustration or say our chosen phrase, “Oh no, that’s so sad you…” Me, Tara, I have a temper. I get frustrated easily. But I find having that phrase in place to replace the harsh words I might otherwise say, helps me to change that habit. Easy? No. Do I fail? Daily. But we’re making progress.
It’s the same with anything we need to change. We have to have something to replace it with. If I didn’t have other words already memorized to replace my words of frustration and anger, frustration and anger would still come out way more often than not.
I have to remember this principle daily. There are many things I try to change by myself, but instead I need to seek what God wants me to replace it with. What changes is God calling you to today? What good, Godly things you could replace them with?
Gag! I’m in exactly the same place! I need a catch phrase too… I love my baby girl with everything in me, but when I say ‘Jump’ I want you to say ‘How High’, not wander over in a dream world. This is my flaw! I love that my baby has a dream world, and I want to keep her in it often, but not when I need to tie up her hair (you get my point)…
Sorry for putting a Post where a Comment should be. But if you think of a catch phrase I’d love you to share it with me.
Hi Student Mommy, I’m don’t have one for at situation yet, sorry 🙁 But the ones I do use come right from “Love and Logic for Early Childhood” by Fay and Fay. It’s an awesome book to help take some frustration out of parenting. I highly recommend it!
God has called me to do a lot of changes in my life, and I’ve been so stubborn. Thank you for amazing encouragement that I truly needed!
Ashley, you’re right! It is so hard to change and so easy to stay the way we are. I’ll be praying for you.